You know what they say – life begins at 40. But while that might be true, what’s definitely without question is that life continues to be fun for as long as you want it to.
As Groucho Marx put it: “I’m only as old as the woman I’m feeling.”
In other words, swinging isn’t just a young person’s game. In fact, most couples who swing are aged between 30 and 50, and there’s absolutely no need to feel out of place if you’re well into your swinging sixties.
If you’re wondering how to swing as a senior, the good news (if you haven’t already worked it out by now) is that, yes, swinging can be just as enjoyable. You might not have as much sex, but if you’re okay with that, this can totally work.
So join me as I show you everything you need to know about swinging as a senior.
Tip #1: Do Whatever It Takes To Make Yourself Feel Sexy
I don’t know about you, but whenever I go to a swinger’s party, I want to feel sexy. I don’t care how old anyone is – we all want to feel good.
Feeling good springs out of looking good. And there’s absolutely no excuse for not getting yourself dolled up before a swingers party!
To make sure you feel sexy (and even a tad younger, perhaps), go to a salon to get your hair down. Make sure the hairdresser has you looking spectacular!
Consider hitting the gym more often, too, so that you can for sure ‘keep up.’
And if your clothes are a bit mundane, or if you’re sick of wearing the ‘same old stuff,’ pop to the shops and get yourself some sharp new outfits. Treat yourself!
Also Read: How To Become a Swinger
Tip #2: Go To a Nudist Resort
I don’t know about you but even at my age I sometimes get a bit tired!
So tired, in fact, that I sometimes wish there were more swingers events during the daytime.
As it happens, swingers tend to be nocturnal animals and the best sex events happen when the sun goes down.
However, there should still be one or two sex events in your local area that you can go to during the daytime. Or, you could always just pack your things with your partner and head to a nudist resort for a few days.
Nudist resorts are great because everyone gets naked without judging each other. It really doesn’t matter what you look like or how old you are – at nudist resorts, everyone is there to flaunt whatever they’ve got and feel comfortable around like-minded people.
Plus, you get to have some naked fun during the day when the sun is out!
And, hey, you might get a tan, too.
Another daytime thing you could do is participate in a Munching event. Munching is when swingers get together at a neutral location (such as a bar) and chat about this and that. Clothing is casual, there’s no sex involved but you get the chance to meet swingers who you could then go to a party with.
Just type “Munching near me” into Google and see what comes up.
Also Read: How To Find & Meet Swingers
Tip #3 Join a Swingers Website
If you haven’t done so already, now is the time to sign up to a swingers website. There are plenty out there (I recommend SwingLifeStyle) and registering takes just a few minutes (or less).
These swingers sites are fantastic for putting you in touch with other swingers (of your own age or other) so that you can ease yourself into the whole process and see what’s out there.
And as you’ll see, swingers sites don’t discriminate when it comes to age. People of all ages, backgrounds and races are welcomed into the swinger community with open arms. You just need to sign up with your partner, add a couple of photos, complete your bio and be polite, friendly and open when you introduce yourself to others.
It won’t be long before you’ve made new friends and are planning trips to sex parties where other senior swingers will be hanging out.
Also Read: Tips For First Time Swingers
Tip #4 Acknowledge Your Limitations
It’s all well and good saying that we can do this and that now that we’re older. But the truth is that parts of our body do start to ‘break down’ as the years pass.
For example, if you have a bad knee, just admit it. Admit it and find sex positions that work for you.
It’s the same if you have a bad back that you know for sure limits what you can do sexually. Be honest and upfront about any physical issues you have so that anyone you have sex with has the right expectations.
The last thing you want to do is to get so bullish that you end up injuring yourself!
It’s also worth mentioning that if you’re a senior male who sometimes struggles to maintain a rock hard erection, there are plenty of online sex pills that you can purchase these days. Many of these are subscription-based which is ideal if you’re planning to head out to a few sex parties over the coming year.
I recommend BlueChew but you’ve got plenty of options, including GetRoman and Viril X.
Tip #5 Keep Your Expectations Low
Following on from the point above, there’s absolutely no reason why you can’t go to a swinger party as a senior and have sex with someone.
However, it’s a good idea to go to a swinger’s party with the mindset that sex might happen but it might not. And if it doesn’t, who cares? You’re going to have some fun anyway!
This is a very liberating mindset to have. Yes, we’d all like to have sex when we go to a sex party. But if you lower your expectations and see sex as the icing on the cake as opposed to the main event, you will probably have a much better time.
Also, it’s really important to remember that swingers parties are parties first and foremost. In other words, there’s a lot more to do than just have sex. You can meet new people, have a good chat and laugh and maybe even dance your ass off! Just let your hair down, have a good time and think “what will be, will be!”
Also Read: How to Find Swinger Parties
Tip #6 Stay Protected
If there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s that seniors don’t tend to be as wary of contracting STIs as younger people are. I’m not sure why this is! However, it’s really important that you take the necessary precautions before going to a swingers party because – no matter what anyone tells you – swingers are strangers who you simply cannot trust with your sexual health just yet.
Getting old can be fun and exciting if you have the right mindset. If you want to keep exploring sexually, you should be free to do so.
Don’t hold back! Use the tips in this article to ensure you and your partner both have a good time when swinging. Accept it might not be the same as it was when you were younger but, as long as you look the part, there’s absolutely no reason why you can’t have a great time swinging.