AdultFriendFinder Review

If you’re looking for a swingers site, AdultFriendFinder (AFF) is a popular choice. Although it’s not marketed specifically as a swingers site, it’s used by millions of singles and couples who are looking to spice up their sex lives via threesomes, orgies, and sex parties. 

AFF is one of the world’s busiest casual dating sites. Nudity is allowed, swingers parties are posted regularly, and anyone of any type of kink or sexual persuasion is invited to join up and get naughty.

Even better, most of the members are open-minded and keen to meet as soon as possible. 

To find out how useful AdultFriendFinder is as a swingers site, my partner and I decided to find out. We’re a couple who are looking to meet like-minded swingers for fun and sexual shenanigans. We joined the site, tested it out – and created this AdultFriendFinder review. 

So come join us to find out whether AFF is the right swingers site for you. We’ll also be exploring possible alternatives, too. 

Our AdultFriendFinder Review

Pros of AdultFriendFinder

  • Millions of active users
  • Lots of horny couples who want fun 
  • Excellent search function
  • Nudity allowed

Cons of AdultFriendFinder

  • Dated website layout

AdultFriendFinder Member Structure 

AdultFriendFinder Member Structure

As mentioned, AdultFriendFinder is one of the most popular casual dating sites in the world. This is backed up by the numbers – it’s currently used by over 80,000,000 people worldwide. Around 80% – 1 in 5 – of those users are male, with a bulk of them living in the U.S.

But while a greater percentage of the user base is male, there are still lots of couples who use the site. This means swingers can meet other swingers. 

Age-wise, there’s lots of variety at AF. According to our research, most members are aged between 25 and 35, but there are plenty of users on either side of that age bracket. There are thousands of users aged between 18 and 25, as well as thousands aged 35+.

The member structure is also varied when it comes to sexual orientation. While a greater percentage of users are straight, there are still many bi, bi-curious, and queer members. 

In terms of what they’re looking for, meanwhile, most users are looking for casual relationships/dating opportunities, such as hookups and sex parties. 

Signing Up On AdultFriendFinder 

Signing Up On AdultFriendFinder

One of the best things about AdultFriendFinder is that the signup process is super easy. There are no lengthy questionnaires to fill out, and you don’t need to add a detailed bio to your profile.

All you need is a photo alongside basic information such as your age, your gender, and your location. 

You can create a single profile or a couples profile, and you’re even free to add graphic pics. 

However, you do need to verify your email address but this is hardly an issue (plus, it helps to eliminate the fake profiles). 

One or two things are mandatory, such as your sexual preferences. This simply helps you find better matches once your profile is up and running. You will also need to pick a unique username.

Overall, the signup process shouldn’t take longer than 5 minutes. 

Making Contact 

Making Contact

Because AFF isn’t strictly aimed at just swingers, you’ll need to tweak your search filters to find couples. Or, if you’re a couple looking for singles to have some fun with, just tweak your filters accordingly.

Once you’ve found someone you like the look of, making contact on AFF is really easy (although you do need to be a paying member). 

There are different ways you can instigate messages with other couples. You can click on their profile and send them a private DM, you can create a group and message different users in there, or you can even use the forums and chat functions. It’s up to you.

My partner and I found that some couples prefer to be private messaged, but some were happy to chat publicly about their sexual desires, what they’re looking for, and so on. 

It’s also worth mentioning that you can build rapport with other members by interacting with their fictional erotic stories, leaving comments, and suchlike. 

Overall, AFF has a real community feel. And since we’re all here to meet fellow swingers, people are open to chatting freely which means you don’t always have to rely on private messaging. All that people ask of each other is that everyone is themselves. Be real, be genuine – be you. 

AdultFriendFinder Profile Quality 

AdultFriendFinder Profile Quality

One of the things we noticed straight away about the profiles on AdultFriendFinder is that most people just get straight to the point with what they’re looking for. Yes, some couples will list their interests and so on, but many prefer to just talk about their sexual fantasies, preferences, and kinks. 

All profiles, meanwhile, contain basic information such as their location, their personality type, their build, etc. Some are more detailed than others, with some users adding more stuff as they go along. 

Graphic pictures are allowed, and you can also add videos to your profile. This was a very useful feature that helped us to get to know the couples a bit better. It’s also a great way to express yourself

That all said, while profile quality on AFF is generally good and most profiles are detailed, you do need to be a paying member to see full profiles. 

AdultFriendFinder Real Life Review

We joined AdultFriendFinder a month ago and it has turned to be our favourite swinger site after SwingLifestyle. The number of swingers on this site is almost three times more than any other popular swinger site. A lot of dating profiles include videos of couple and its our favourite feature. We have met five couples so far and have had a really good time. It’s also nice to see that a lot of couples here are also very experimental. Yes, there are chunks of fake profiles but honestly we don’t mind because we are constantly getting results. Overall, it’s amazing site for swingers. Totally worth paying for it!

Design and Usability 

Design and Usability

AFF has been criticized over the years for sticking with its basic, rather dated design. The site hasn’t been given a revamp for several years and it probably looks exactly like it did 20 years ago. 

However, despite its basic design, AFF is very easy to navigate. Most things – such as your messages and the special features – are just a click away – and it’s almost impossible to get lost on the site. Searching for people is easy enough, site speed is fine and the overall user experience is positive. 

AdultFriendFinder App

Like all the best dating apps these days, AFF has its app. It’s free to download and install from the App Store, and it can be used on both Apple and Android devices. 

However, its name is not AdultFriendFinder. Instead, you’ll find it under the name “AllFriendFinder”. This is because the parent company decided to just merge their various sites into one app.

Is this a good thing for swingers? 

We think it is. You still get access to most of the AFF features, including videos and live streaming, and it’s just as easy to find and connect with other couples, flirt – and meet up.

The app is functional, it works seamlessly and we had no real issues when using it. It’s ideal if you’re using it while on the move. 

Costs and Prices 

While AFF is free to sign up to, and while there are some things you can do as a free member, you’ll need to upgrade to get the most out of the site. 

Here is what you can do as a free member:

  • Create an account 
  • View partial profiles 
  • Join groups and blogs and leave comments 
  • Search for members 

As a premium member, you can do more things. Such as:

  • Send and receive messages 
  • View full profiles 
  • Send gifts
  • Use the chat rooms 
  • Add friends 
  • Watch live streams 

There are also special features you can access, although some of these can also be accessed by free members who want to “pay as they go.” More on these soon. 

If you want to upgrade your account, AdultFriendFinder offers a package called Gold Membership. Here are the prices:

  • 1 month – $27 per month
  • 3 months – $20 per month
  • 12 months – $15 per month 

Is AdultFriendFinder Expensive? 

To answer this question, we thought the best thing to do would be to compare AFF with its closest rivals:

  • SwingLifestyle 
  • SwingersDateClub
  • Kasidie 

As we’ve seen, signing up to AdultFriendFinder for a month will cost you $27. Alternatively, all of its rival apps cost less than $20. 

However, if you decide to subscribe for 3 months, AFF costs $20 a month – but again, each of its rivals works out cheaper. SwingLifestyle, for example, costs $10 a month, while SwingersDateClub costs the same. 

Ultimately, AFF is one of the most expensive adults dating sites for swingers. However, the site can justify its prices thanks to it being more popular all over the US (its rivals tend to be more localized in their searches, while AFF can be used to find swingers all over America), its high usage rate, its huge community, as well as its generous amount of special features. 

Special Features 

AdultFriendFinder offers several special features that make it one of the standout choices for adult dating. Here are the best features for swingers:

Group Chat Rooms 

The group chat rooms are lively places full of like-minded (and open-minded) singles and couples who want to get to know each other better, flirt with each other and share naughty stories. They’re great places to meet people and learn more about the world of swinging, but they can only be used by paying members. 

Blogs and Groups 

Blogs and Groups

Blogs and groups are open to free and paid members, and are great places to meet new people, learn new things and discuss anything and everything, from swinging to even non-sex stuff.

Sex Academy

If you’re new to swinging and want to learn more about it and the type of people who swing, the Sex Academy is a really useful feature. It’s sort of like a “sex college” and contains numerous guides and tips on all things sex, from sex parties to anal sex. 

Erotic Stories 

If you’re the type of couple who enjoys reading (and even writing) erotic stories together, this feature will appeal. All members are invited to submit either their own true or entirely fictional stories, and AFF has built up a big library over the years. 


If you come across a couple or a single that you like the look of but don’t have the time to message them just yet, you can add them to your HotList. It’s a list of favorites whom you can message later on. 

Send Gifts 

Gifts are available to free members, but you still need to pay for individual gifts. These are strictly virtual gifts only and can be sent to singles or couples you’re looking to woo. 

What Are The Better Alternatives?

AFF might be the most popular swingers app, but there are others you might want to consider before making your final decision:

  • SwingLifestyle 

As its name suggests, SwingLifestyle is aimed squarely at swingers. It’s used by both singles and couples and currently claims to have over 16 million members worldwide.

Unlike AFF, though, SwingLifestyle is more suited to local meet-ups, as opposed to nationwide. And while it’s cheaper than AFF, it doesn’t come with as many features.

Signup is easy, however, and you don’t even need to add a profile picture. And while there are a few things you can do as a free member, such as search and view profiles, you can’t send or receive messages.

That all said, SwingLifestyle is a lot less graphic than AFF and so may suit those who don’t want to see nudity. 

For more info: SwingLifestyle review

  • SwingersDateClub

SwingersDateClub has been around for just over 20 years, which makes it pretty much the same age as AFF. However, with around 3 million active users, it’s nowhere near as busy. Moreover, it’s much like SwingLifestyle in that it’s more aimed at local meet-ups, as opposed to national ones. 

Profile quality is good and users are generally open to chatting, flirting and meeting up, and the usual swingers apps features, such as Travel and blogs, are here. 

Unlike most dating apps, there’s a lot you can do as a free member, but SwingersDateClub is slightly more affordable than AFF. That’s about the only thing that helps it stand out, however, with AFF trumping it for special features, nudity, and more members. That all said, SwingersDateClub can boast a more modern, slicker user interface. 

For more info: Swingers Date Club review

  • Kasidie 

Kasidie is another swinger app that’s available to use to meet like-minded people. Again, it’s more locally oriented than AFF and it also has a lot fewer users – around 3 million at the time of writing.

That means there are not as many people to choose from, but Kasidie is a straight-up swinger’s app (unlike AFF, which caters to all kinds of kinks and sexual preferences). This means you won’t need to waste time searching through unsuitable profiles.

Kasidie is fairly easy to use, it looks good, but the signup process is rather long and can be off-putting. You can find people via chatrooms and forums, but a real lack of special features and the fact that its user base is on the small side means Kasidie isn’t as easy to recommend as AdultFriendFinder. 

For more info: Kasidie review

Editor’s Review

AdultFriendFinder is a naughty swinger’s app that’s ideal for those who are looking for some sexy fun ASAP. It’s popular, there’s always someone online anywhere in the world, and you can use it to meet people in real life, or have some sexual shenanigans online. 

It’s pricey but our personal experience using AFF was positive, and while the design is definitely on the basic side of things, there’s still a lot here to keep anyone of any sexual persuasion entertained.