If you and your partner are looking to make your first foray into the exciting world of swinging, it can be hard to know where to start.
Where do you find swingers? Where on earth are they?
You could post an S/O on Facebook, but that’s hardly likely to get you anywhere.
So what do you do?
I’ve got a few years of swinging experience under my belt. Like you, I had to start somewhere, and (perhaps like you), I didn’t know anyone who was a swinger. It was just myself and my partner who was dying to see what swinging was all about.
Over the years, I’ve learned what, while swinging, is still seen as a bit of a ‘subculture,’ it’s not actually that hard to find swingers. They’re certainly not hiding – they’re just waiting for you to say ‘hi.’ With that in mind, join me as I show you the many ways you can find swingers near you.
Here’s How to Find Swingers Near You
1. Sign-up on Swinger Dating Sites
Now, there are lots of legitimate dating sites that connect you with other swingers.
I know that some people are still wary of using dating sites. But when it comes to meeting fellow swingers and making a start, the internet really is a godsend.
I’ve personally used Swing Lifestyle for a few years now, and it’s a fantastic online swingers community that puts you in touch with local swingers in your area. You can use it to introduce yourself to new people, make new friends – and find sex parties nearby.
All you need to do is sign up with your partner and add a few pics and a bio. Then, you can start crafting your dating profile and get chatting to like minded couples.
Other dating sites include Swap Finder and Adult Friend Finder, and SDC (Swingers Date Club). Please bear in mind that, while these dating sites are free to join, you will need to pay to send messages. Prices are generally reasonable, and they’re definitely worth it if you want to start meeting fellow swingers.
Check my favourite swinger dating sites.
2. Use MeetUp
MeetUp isn’t actually a dedicated swingers site, but it’s exactly what its name suggests. It’s a website that lets users post meetups that anyone is free to join.
And these meetups include ones hosted by swingers who want to meet like-minded swingers.
You won’t find sex parties here, but you will be able to find swingers just like you. The meetups are very chilled and take place in neutral venues, such as pubs. The idea is that people get together for a drink, a chat, and a chance to get to know each other.
And if you find that you like certain people, who knows what may happen? Perhaps you’ll be invited to a swinger party.
But this is really the thing about swinging. You must be prepared to get out there and meet people. Meetup certainly helps with this. Meetup can also help you go Munching.
Munching is a swingers term, and it’s essentially when swingers hang out with other swingers. No sex is involved; it’s just a few open-minded people getting together for a drink to chat about this and that.
Just go to Google and type in ‘Munching near me.’
3. Go On Swinger Cruises & Swinger Resorts
This is a pretty big step if you’ve never been swinging before. But if you’re a fun-loving, confident couple who loves their body, there’s no reason not to go on a swingers vacation.
A swingers vacation isn’t anything like a typical vacation. The BIG difference, of course, is that people get naked, and strangers have sex with each other.
Swingers cruises and swinger resorts are especially great places to meet people because you’re all together on a boat. Therefore, you’ve got the chance to move around with your partner and meet like-minded people who want to experiment sexually.
Here’s a great resource that points you in the direction of hotels for swingers. Many of these hotels are clothing optional, some are completely nudist and some even allow sex in public areas. Again, they’re great places to meet open-minded swingers.
On a swinger cruise you will find a lot of opportunities to have casual sex, group sex, and like minded couples looking for fun.
Also Read: 15 Common Reasons Why Couple Swings
4. Go To a Swingers Party
Going to a swingers party is easier said than done because you can’t just turn up to one uninvited. You could go to a local strip club and ask the dancers and bar staff if they know of any sex parties nearby, or you could call in at your local sex shop.
Those who work there should be in the know when it comes to swingers party.
However, you can just use swinging websites like those above SwingLifestyle and Adult Friend Finder. These sites are always listing new swinging events, swingers clubs for you to meet people and make friends. Before long, you’ll be getting invited to parties.
5. Host Your Own Sex Party
You know what they say: If you want something doing, it’s best to do it yourself.
If you’re having trouble finding a sex party in your local area, why not start your own party? All you need is somewhere to host it – your house will probably do just fine!
Then, you could create a group on Facebook and start inviting people. Make sure to ask others to invite their open-minded friends, too.
I would definitely say that, if this is your first time holding a sex party, you should start small. Don’t invite everyone who’s anyone. Keep it courteous and tight.
When the guests arrive, make sure to introduce yourself to them all. Remember, this is your chance to meet swingers, so don’t blow it! Be friendly, be polite, and be the gracious host.
6. Talk To Your Friends
It’s probably not a good idea to post about swinging on Facebook as it could attract all kinds of unwanted attention (especially from nosey and judgemental family members). But you could have a chat with close friends about swinging.
This is what I did when I first got started. My partner did it, too. We tested the waters without friends, to see if there were any among them who had tried swinging before.
Unsurprisingly, most hadn’t. But one or two (including those we hadn’t expected to be into swinging) had given it some thought.
And what do you know? There was even a friend who knew where the local sex parties were at.
And this is the thing with asking for advice. There are often lots of people out there who know something you don’t. So don’t be afraid to start by talking to your friends because you never know – their responses might surprise you! Moreover, they might be able to point you in the right direction.
I myself learned more about my friends by doing this. I found out that one or two of them were polyamorous, while others were thinking about exploring their sexuality more by visiting a sex party.
Hopefully, you by now realize that finding swingers isn’t so hard after all. We’re not all hiding!
Moreover, you don’t have to go straight to a swingers party to meet people. You could start by joining a few sites, going to a few MeetUp events, and connecting with swingers just like you would anyone else.
Just make sure that you and your partner are polite, warm, and friendly. You will soon meet many likable people and take it from there!