How to Find Swinger Parties Near You (Easily)

I hear you: You can’t just walk up to a friend and casually ask them if they know of any local sex parties. Well, you could but you’re probably not going to!

The thing with sex parties is that, while they’re fun and filled with open, tolerant and really cool people, there’s still a stigma surrounding them. In many societies, sex parties are a taboo. 

This presents a really tricky problem: That of finding one. 

I had the same issue a few years back when I first started getting into sex parties. I was keen on trying a few out but I had literally no idea where to look. Could I make a status on Facebook asking for help? Probably not! 

Fortunately, I went onto learn that there’s a bit of a knack to finding swinger parties – and it’s actually not even that difficult! In this article, I’ll be sharing with you the best ways to find local sex parties near you so you can meet swingers near you.

5 Ways to Find Swinger/Sex Parties Near You

1. Join FetLife 

Fetlife.com is a one-stop shop for kinky people like you and I who are looking to explore the BDSM scene. It’s home to all kinds of weird, wonderful (and hot) people who want to chat to new people and potentially meet up in real life.

It’s also a Mecca for local events and sex parties near you. 

Anyone can join because it’s basically an online community open to all. Simply register an account, choose a username (you can register with your partner if you prefer) and then get exploring.

You can search for members according to criteria such as location, and you can find events near you. 

The site is easy to use and navigate, everyone is super friendly, open and tolerant (and kinky), and it’s a great way to ease you into the swingers lifestyle. 

Perhaps the biggest advantage of FetLife is you’ll get the chance to make friends with people before arriving at a sex party. This means that you don’t have to be too nervous when you show up. 

That all said, I feel I should also put a warning out there that, while most FetLife members are good people, there are definitely a few bad apples who get in now and then. These are perverts who you need to be careful of. If someone steps over the line while chatting to you, make sure to let the moderators know. 

And please screen anyone before you meet them! 

2. Sign Up To Kasidie 

Kasidie.com is a dating website for swingers who are looking to meet other likeminded people for some fun and games, and to go to sex parties with. 

Kasidie is especially ideal for single men and women who are looking to meet couples at local parties, but don’t know any in real life who’d be up for such a thing. I myself was a single male when I first started getting interested in things like group sex, which made Kasidie a bit of a godsend.

Like most adult sites, though, sign up is free but you’ll need to subscribe and pay if you want to message other users. That kinda sucks but honestly – on the whole – I highly recommend this website. 

3. Visit Your Local Sex Shop 

I get it – some people feel a bit queasy about the idea of popping into their local sex shop. They worry that someone they know might see them and judge them. I totally get that. As such, you don’t have to visit your local sex shop – you could give them a ring instead.

The idea is that you get in touch with your local sex shop to see if they know of any swinger parties in the local area (they will do). 

Personally, I’d say just visit the sex shop in person. That way, the people who run it can see that you’re genuine, and you might also strike up a bit of a friendship with them. Plus, they can probably tell you what goes on at sex parties to help ease any nerves you may have. 

4. Visit Your Local Strip Club

Need an excuse to visit your local strip joint? How about the fact that you’ve gotta go down there to see if anyone knows where the local sex parties are at? 

You probably won’t get very far if you walk up to the bar staff and ask them that question because the chances are that they won’t know. They just serve the drinks – that’s it. It’s the same with the security guys; they’re just there to do a job and then go home. 

However, if you’re feeling confident you could talk to the dancers themselves because they’ll probably have a bit of an idea. And if they don’t, they will surely point you in the direction of someone who does (this is what happened to me). 

The idea of visiting a local strip club in order to find information does sound like something out of a movie about a private detective, but hey – you’ve gotta do whatever works. And with this one, you could have a lot of fun while you get your answers 🙂 

5. Go ‘Munching’ 

In swingers circles, the act of joining a ‘Munch’ means that you’re going out to meet fellow swingers in a safe, neutral public place, such as a bar. 

These are fantastic for anyone who wants to learn more about local sex parties, but who isn’t quite ready to head over to one just yet. 

Anyone can turn up wearing whatever they want, but most people keep it casual and cool (you can save the sexy outfits for the parties). 

The conversation is chilled and light and there’s nothing dramatic about it. It’s literally just a bunch of like minded swingers getting together for a drink. 

Munching is a great place to put yourself out there and showcase your personality to new people. It also gives you the chance to ask where the local sex parties are. 

To find a Munch that’s near you, all you need to do is type ‘Munch near me’ into Google and see what comes up. 

6. Try Apps

This is a bit of a last resort, and one that most people can skip. 

Apps such as KinkD and Kinster are crammed with swingers looking to meet up and go to sex parties with other users. While you can totally sign up to one of these apps to see what’s out there, I say that they’re a last resort because they’re not backed by supportive communities. As such, things can go wrong. 

So try apps by all means but just be careful!

Takeaway:

Hopefully this article has helped you out in terms of making it clearer what you need to do to find sex parties near you. As you can see, it isn’t that hard but you will need to put yourself out there. Swinger parties generally don’t just accept anyone. 

And when you eventually arrive at a party, make sure to follow the rules, stay as sober as possible (this isn’t a frat party, bro) and be aware of other peoples’ boundaries. 

Other than that, just relax, be yourself and take it easy. 

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