Herpes and Swinging: Swinging With Herpes

Swinging is one of the most fun things you can do sexually with your partner. It’s exciting, it’s adventurous, and there’s so much to explore. A whole new world awaits.

However, we can’t talk about swinging without talking about herpes, too. For sex to be fun, we must educate ourselves on the health perils that we face. 

Swinging and herpes don’t go hand-in-hand. But whenever you have sex with strangers, there’s always the risk that you may contract an STI. 

The stakes are higher in the swinging world because there’s every chance that you will have sex with more than one person in a single night. To make sure both you and your partner stay safe, you need to understand what you’re getting into. 

In this article, we’re going to take a rudimentary look at herpes and what you as a swinger need to know. 

Basic Understanding of Herpes

The thing with herpes that scares everyone is that, once you’ve got the virus, you cannot get rid of it. It’s there for life. As such, most people will do anything they can to avoid getting it. 

There are two types of herpes

  • HSV1
  • HSV2

HSV1 is the most visible and apparent. It forms cold sores on your lips. Therefore, whenever you know that someone has regular cold sores, there’s a chance they have herpes. Naturally, cold sores can arise due to other viruses, so you mustn’t jump to conclusions.

HSV2, on the other hand, manifests itself in the form of itchy genital bumps. However, HSV1 can also form below the waist, too, which can make self-diagnosis difficult. 

FAQs by Swingers About Herpes

How Does Herpes Spread? 

Herpes is super contagious in both its forms. It spreads really easily, and you can catch it just by touching someone else. You can also catch it by sharing their drink, their utensils and – of course – by kissing them or engaging in other sexual activities with them. 

You don’t need to be going through a herpes outbreak to spread it, but it’s more potent during an outbreak. In fact, there’s every chance that someone who has herpes but who isn’t currently suffering from an active outbreak could kiss you and not pass the disease onto you.

Is Herpes Life Threatening?

Herpes can be a confidence killer, and it can ruin your sex life. But it isn’t life-threatening and, compared to other STIs such as syphilis, it isn’t hazardous. It’s just a major bummer. 

What Are The Chances Of Someone Having Herpes at a Swingers Party? 

Quite high. 

Herpes is widespread, with 60% of middle-aged adults having some form of the virus. 

This means that more than one out of two people have it. Worse still, not everyone who has herpes is diagnosed. Why? Because when someone tests for herpes, they need to be suffering from an active outbreak to return a positive result. If they’re currently showing no symptoms (but have the virus), the test result might be negative. 

Of course, anyone who goes to a swingers party should be mature enough to do all they can to protect others if they have the herpes virus. Therefore, you would hope that your chances of meeting someone with herpes at a swingers party are minimal. 

How To Prevent Herpes at a Swingers Party

It’s not exactly easy. After all, you can’t initiate contact with another couple and ask them if they have herpes. It’s just not the done thing. 

You could look for the warning signs around their lips (cold sores), and if you spot any, you should back away. 

However, it’s improbable that anyone would risk going to a swingers party with cold sores dotted around their lips. You would also hope that anyone who’s suffering from an active outbreak stays away altogether, too. 

To be absolutely sure, though, that a couple you’re about to have sex with isn’t going to infect you with anything, you must always take precaution in the form of condoms and dental dams. This is the least you can do.

You should also wash your hands directly after sex and switch condoms if you’re planning to have sex with different people in one session.

Other than that, there isn’t a lot you can do except refrain from sex altogether. The simple truth is that you’ll just need to trust people.

And the thing is, most people who go to swingers parties are mature, respectful adults. Some may have herpes, but if they’re not currently struggling with an active outbreak, the chances that they’ll infect you are minimal. 

Also Read: Dangers of Swinging: Health, RelationshipIssues

What Do I Do If I Get Herpes? 

If you think you’ve got herpes, go and talk to your doctor. They can recommend you treatments to help keep outbreaks in check, and they can also suggest medications that will lower the risk of you passing the virus onto others. 

If you have herpes and an outbreak occurs, don’t go to a swingers party. Not only will you probably spread it, but you’ll also develop an unwanted reputation for turning up with an STI. 


Herpes is out there and it can put a dampener on swinging. But we’ve written this article so that you don’t get super alarmed and stop swinging just because someone told you you could get herpes. 

For more information check out https://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/stdfact-herpes-detailed.htm