When you’re searching for an another couple to have sex with, going into bars can be a drag.
How on earth do you know when another couple is up for some fun?!
The good news is that these days you can simply pop online, visit a swinger dating site and find swinger couples who are looking for the exact same thing that you are.
However, with numerous swinging sites online, finding the best swinger site for you isn’t easy.
The task is complicated by the fact that the best swinger sites require payment before letting you send messages and meeting up with people.
For this reason, it’s essential that you choose the right swinger site straight off the bat.
As a swinger couple, we have ourselves tested over 20 swinger sites in the last few years. So, we know what works and what doesn’t. In this article, we’re going to take a look at the best swinger dating sites that actually work.
|AdultFriendFinder||Best overall site for swingers||in-depth review|
|Ashley Madison||Best Runner-up site||in-depth review|
|SDC||Best for finding swinger couples and swinging events||in-depth review|
|Kasidie||Best feature rich site for swinging-lifestyle & community.||in-depth review|
|SwingLifeStyle||The most popular swinger site in the USA||in-depth review|
|Alt.com||Best for swingers who are into BDSM||in-depth review|
|Fab Swingers||Best for UK’s swingers||in-depth review|
|Swingers Heaven||Best for Canada’s swingers||in-depth review|
Best Swinger Sites of 2021
Adult Friend Finder is the most popular site among millions of swingers to bring fun to their adult life. This site is crammed with millions of members who have all kinds of sexual preferences and appetites, from couples to singles, and it’s possible to use the website to find local swingers, fuck buddies, sex parties, swinger clubs or even just hookups.
Prices start out from £9.95/month and for that, you get access to live member webcams, chat rooms, video chats, contests and the infamous Sex Academy, a place where you can learn more about sex. For example, you’ll be introduced to new terms and concepts you may not have heard of before – such as Sleep Fucking – and the Academy also offers helpful advice to newbies.
Design-wise, Adult Friend Finder is a bit basic but there’s no need to let that put you off. The homepage is still very erotic and plastered with thumbnails of members who are online at the moment.
Like any adult dating site, Adult Friend Finder is home to its fair share of fake profiles. Fortunately, there is an easy way to differentiate a fake profile from a real one. Just look for the Gold membership icon – if a person is a Gold member, it means they’ve taken the time to pay for their account.
2. SDC (Swingers Date Club)
Founded in 1999, Swingers Date Club is an established swinger website with millions of members. It’s safe and secure and it’s open to both couples and singles. SDC offers 7-day trial, after which you’ll need to upgrade to a paid subscription. Prices start from £9.16/month if you lock yourself into a 12-month subscription, but you’ll have to pay £22.95 if you want to subscribe for just a month.
With paid membership, you get access to 3 million paying members, you also get to post on the blog, watch videos posted by other members, join in contests, swinger clubs, swinger parties, and events, as well as book a room for SDCs upcoming events.
Free members, meanwhile, can use the speed dating events, join in the community and even enter the video and photo spotlight. Design-wise, SDC looks rather elegant and erotic but at the same time, it’s all a bit basic. On the other hand, it’s easy to use and get the hang of.
In terms of your chances of finding swingers, Swingers Date Club does really well on this front. There are lots of singles and couples who are up for trying anything and everything in and out of the bedroom, and all kinds of sexual preferences and kinks are catered to.
Kasidie is a dating site for swingers with the most features & functionalities. It has its very own Swingers Club that makes it easier for you to find local swingers near you. There are lots of events being planned all the time on the site (local and national), and while this is a premium swinger website, there are still a few things you can do for free while you test the waters.
For example, free members can browse swinger parties, search for members and read the forums. Being able to search for members helps you to see what kind of people are on here, which should help you decide whether or not to upgrade to a paid account. Prices are reasonable and start out from $19.95 a month. That’s arguably the best price we’ve come across on a swinger website.
Once you’re a fully paid-up member of Kasidie, there are a few special features you get access to. These include a Travel feature that lets you post your travel plans so that others can ask if they can join you. An eXXXtra feature, meanwhile, is where you can buy sex toys, while Swinger Club Listings is a feature where you’ll find the sex parties that are being held nearby.
In terms of meeting swingers for sex, the design is slightly overwhelming but you’ll soon get used to it. We’d prefer it if the profiles were less cluttered, but since most of the users seem to be real and genuine, there’s no reason why you can’t find what you’re looking for.
Ashley Madison is a high-traffic online dating website that’s marketed towards adulterous couples who are looking to inject some passion back into their sex life via a fling. While it’s not primarily a swinger site per se, there are plenty of willing married women on here who are looking to join couples for fun and games.
Ashley Madison has courted controversy for allowing female members to use the site for free while male members are charged. There are 3 payment packages on offer to males, who have to then pay extra to send virtual gifts.
There are lots of special and unique features to take advantage of, including Winks, the aforementioned virtual gifts, as well as a feature called Travelling Man. This feature lets you message people in a city you’ll soon be visiting so that you can sort out a hookup in advance.
Ashley Madison is now more secure than ever and there shouldn’t be a repeat of the data breach a few years back , while your chances of meeting swingers couple depend on how much effort you put into the site. It’s worth buying credits, filling out your profile and letting people know exactly what you’re looking for.
SwingLifestyle is the most popular swinger site in the USA with millions of swingers. It’s aimed at anyone who’s looking to pair up with other couples or find singles in the local vicinity. With around 6.5 million monthly visits, there’s plenty of choices and it is home to one of the largest online swinger sites & swinger community around.
While it’s possible to signup for free, there’s not a lot you can do until you subscribe to a premium membership plan. Prices start out at $14.95/month. An easy signup process means you can get started as soon as possible, there are lots of swinger events going on all the time in your local area that you can join, while the members are active and always up for chatting and meeting.
It’s also possible to stay totally anonymous to free members if you wish to retain your privacy. We think this is one of the best features of the Swinglifestyle because it means your pictures will only be displayed to serious, paying members.
You can upload nude photos, participate in video chats as well as block members. The prices are good, the signup process is nice and simple and there are plenty of singles and couples to choose from. However, the site design is not very attractive but it’s easy to use.
True Swingers gets straight to the point. It helps you to find a like-minded singleton or couple in your area as soon as possible. TrueSwingers also doesn’t mess around when it comes to nude photos, with a graphic gallery section open to free members as well as those who haven’t even registered for an account yet.
The search filter allows you to browse & filter photos and videos by tags, such as bisexual and bondage. Other than that, free and unregistered users can browse the forums and the FAQ section. We like the FAQ section introduces you to the concept of swinging and educates you about things like conduct, etiquette, and any legal issues.
Once you’ve registered for an account, all you then need to do is head over to the Search bar at the top left of the homepage and tweak your search according to things like age, gender and last online. You can also search for certified users only, which ensures you won’t get chatting to fake profiles.
The very best thing about True Swingers? It’s always free to register. And with over a thousand members typically online at any time, TrueSwingers is one of the most popular free swinging sites out there.
Alt is an adult dating site to go to if you’re into kinks like fetish sex, bondage, and BDSM. It’s perfect for those of you who are a little curious and open to trying new things, as well as more experienced couples who are looking to add more people to their sexual frolics. The free version includes the Flirt feature, the ability to send flowers and add users to your Hotlist or friends’ list, and the ability to perform a Kink Search.
Paid members, on the other hand, get access to 24/7 customer support, blogs, and groups, and they can send gifts. They also get to contact new members before anyone else and their profiles appear at the top of the search list.
One of the website’s more unique features, meanwhile, is something called Astrological Compatibility. This feature shows you which zodiac signs you’re most likely to hit it off with on a sexual level.
Subscription packages are split between Silver and Gold memberships. The cheapest Silver package costs £8.95/month if you subscribe for a minimum of 12 months, while the cheapest Gold package costs £8.95/month if you lock yourself into an 18-month contract.
8. Fab Swingers
FabSwingers is a swinger dating site dedicated to the swinging lifestyle. It’s not a high-traffic swinging site, with an estimated 500,000 total members from the UK, and it’s rather blandly designed. However, there are thousands of active users who log in each day and there are plenty of genuine couples and like minded people who are interested in non monogamy perks such as full swap and soft swap.
What we like about Fab Swingers is that it promotes a very communal feel. Ages range from 18 to 55+, sign up is super easy but every single profile needs to be photo verified, and this can take 3 hours.
It’s easy enough to make contact with other users because the website is so easy to use, and you can filter out users who are online or offline. A live cam function and detailed profiles make it a great online community.
Essentially, people who use FabSwingers want to find swingers who are sexually adventurous and the website is a great place to have fun while being unashamedly yourself.
9. Swing Towns
If you’re looking for some red hot sexual adventures with new people, ignore downtown and go to Swing Town instead. Swing Town looks a lot like Facebook, but don’t let this put you off. It’s a welcoming website that’s low in price, great to look at, and focused especially on polyamorous couples, as well as those looking for a threesome.
It’s been around since 2000, set-up is super simple and quick and you only need to give out the most basic information before your profile is up and running.
We’d prefer it if the profiles were a bit more detailed, but overall it should be easy enough to find what you’re looking for according to preferences. For example, there’s a Polyamorous Finder and a Threesome Finder to help you out.
Price-wise, Swing Towns is very cheap. You’ll pay just $5.75 per month if you lock yourself into a 12-month subscription package, while a one-month subscription costs $15.95.
10. Swingers Heaven
Swingers Heaven was initially available only in the UK, the company has now created localised websites all over the world, from Canada to South Africa. Swingers Heaven has a proper community to feel to it, with users engaging in chat rooms, message boards, and forums all day long.
The users here are friendly, open and genuine, with the moderators doing all they can to keep fake profiles out.
You can create a joint profile with your partner if you prefer, the sign-up process is easy and shouldn’t take longer than 2 minutes, and it’s relatively simple enough to make new friends and meet up with like-minded people as long as you’re genuine, polite and nice.
It’s affordable, too, with a 12-month subscription costing just £56.95 for the whole year.
These are one of the best dating sites for swingers. It’s a good idea to pick a few that you like the sound of before creating a free profile and having a look around.
Once you’ve found the one you really like the look and feel of, go ahead and subscribe for however long you want and have some fun with it.
For the best chances of success, make sure to fill out your profile, adding pics, a bio, and your sexual likings (group sex, anal, full swap, and BDSM, e.t.c) and put the effort in to make proper connections.